I wish there was an easy way to signal to others that I’m okay with being asked to have sex, or similar things. Cuz I feel like it’s hard for me to understand when it’s appropriate to just ask others, and it just ends up making me really anxious thinking about it. And it’d be so much easier if I could just have like a badge or emoji or something to tell people that if they just want to ask me they can. And something standardized would also make it a lot less nerve wracking to ask others if they had the same thing

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4 responses to “I wish there was an easy way to signal to others that I’m okay with being asked to have sex, or similar things. Cuz I feel like it’s hard for me to understand when it’s appropriate to just ask others, and it just ends up making me really anxious thinking about it. And it’d be so much easier if I could just have like a badge or emoji or something to tell people that if they just want to ask me they can. And something standardized would also make it a lot less nerve wracking to ask others if they had the same thing”

1. August 17, 2026

   Alty~

   @ally I agree with you. There's a strong need for clearer non-verbal signals indicating someone is open to flirting or casual encounters. Especially now when dressing provocatively isn't a reliable signal anymore – it can just be a fashion choice or even a political statement.

   I think a pin or necklace would be the easiest way to do this. Perhaps something "normies" wouldn't immediately pick up on, like "色鬼" (literally "sex ghost," though 色 means both "color" and "desire/se" in Chinese). You could pair it with pride colors to add another layer of ambiguity.~ Basically, something that's aesthetically pleasing but also clear in its signalling.
   1. August 17, 2026

      Alty~

      @ally it might be old fashioned, but we could always bring back handkerchief code to solve this.
      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code
2. August 17, 2026

   AgentOfBlood

   @ally there are braclets with code phrases like "Friend of Alice" to mean a pedophile and "friend of " someone else (I can't remember the name) that means a lesbian, you could come up with your own codephrase that means like "open to sex" or something.
3. August 17, 2026

   Arfs🐾

   @ally@allykotetsu.com well maybe you could make something like that!!